Meaningful rituals and readings.
These may include reciting a portion of Scriptures; breaking
a glass at the end of the ceremony; a wine ceremony or
the unity candle-lighting ritual; the reading of a favorite
poem or literary passage; or telling an anecdote, for
example, about how you met. I often suggest rituals honoring
each partner’s family of origin, and those involving
children from previous marriages, celebrating their important
role in the creation of your new family.
Planning your wedding site.
If you need help in this regard, I can suggest appropriate
wedding venues. The selection of a site is a very personal
one. I have conducted weddings in Westchester, Long
Island, New Jersey, the Hamptons — large elaborate
weddings at Tavern on the Green, the Plaza and Pierre
Hotels, as well as beach clubs. I have also officiated
at smaller, intimate ceremonies in the couple’s
or family’s house or apartment, or outdoors such
as in Central Park’s Conservatory Gardens. As
with every other part of your wedding day, the site
should feel just right for you.
Follow-through.
I’ll meet with you until you feel convinced that
your ceremony will live up to your particular expectations.
I will also talk about my responsibility for handling
the marriage license. As your wedding date approaches,
we’ll meet again or talk by phone to make sure
everything is in place and understood
How love is recognized.
Erich Fromm wrote: “There is only one proof for
the presence of love: the depth of the relationship and
the aliveness and strength in each person concerned.
This is the fruit by which love is recognized.” I
promise that the aliveness and strength that each of
you brings to your unique relationship will be joyously
celebrated and affirmed at your wedding. And it will
be a wedding everyone will remember. |
